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What is pleasing to the eye, ear and heart? What is it that man and women long for?

Some of the best advice I heard was received was from from my father. He said, "son, the physical quality you most look for in a women is her voice. That is what you have to live with the rest of your life. If it is pleasant to your ears and heart that is good. All other physical attributes fade in time. Looks diminish, physical attributes wane but the sound of the voice ... the voice remains the same."

Attraction is an emotional chemistry. Some say it can be manufactured. I disagree. Radical transformation is touched on in Graceful Living. Attractiveness, however, is something that one can work on, polish and improve. Much like public speaking, when one practices at a Toastmasters Club learning delivery, tricks and attention grabbers, your score improves. Or, like taking practice PSAT tests that dramatically increase your SAT score.

Some men and women you remember in high school, college or a group social setting were the popular ones. They were sought. They had this in common:

» They were secure in their own skin.

» Their posture, body language and gestures were natural not weak.

» Their tone of voice pleasant and alert.

» They did not seek approval of others.

» Their behavior was not to manipulate you into a situation, they would lead as one of the first ones to step forward.

» They were not clingy or giving any sign of being needy and insecure.

» They would not diminish themselves in order to gain your approval.

» They would be interesting to be around.

» They throw pitches occasionally from "left field, " that is, taking chances by throwing in ideas that appear not to make sense and running with them.

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